The thing that doesn't "fit" me is all the stuff bundled up with being "a woman". I despise the pigeonhole.
I am also not comfortable with the constraints and expectations that other people try to place on me, based on the conclusions they draw from looking at me; further, I have gender whims, in that some days I'm girly and some days I'm kind of butch.
This. Just because nature saddled me with big boobs doesn't mean I should have to conform to other's expectations of "womanhood".
That's why I really support the unlinking of gender role expectations and physical presentation. Because being shaped in a certain way shouldn't force you to act according to a certain set of expectations.
It's like saying every tall person (male or female) must excel at basketball, and play it all their lives. That tall person shouldn't have to have their legs shortened to be allowed to stay off the basketball court. (Yes, the analogy is silly, but so are gender roles, IMO.)
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Date: 2011-09-04 03:33 pm (UTC)I am also not comfortable with the constraints and expectations that other people try to place on me, based on the conclusions they draw from looking at me; further, I have gender whims, in that some days I'm girly and some days I'm kind of butch.
This. Just because nature saddled me with big boobs doesn't mean I should have to conform to other's expectations of "womanhood".
That's why I really support the unlinking of gender role expectations and physical presentation. Because being shaped in a certain way shouldn't force you to act according to a certain set of expectations.
It's like saying every tall person (male or female) must excel at basketball, and play it all their lives. That tall person shouldn't have to have their legs shortened to be allowed to stay off the basketball court. (Yes, the analogy is silly, but so are gender roles, IMO.)